Growing up I heard a lot of talk about reputation. People trying to keep a reputation, build a reputation, create a new reputation. Even wanting to move to start over in order to redo a reputation.
But what is reputation? What does it do for you? How do you create your own reputation?
I have come to the conclusion that an honest reputation is built off of character.
You can create any reputation you desire by doing things and saying things and acting a certain way. But what is the point if it’s not who you are? That’s a lot of acting to do and a lot of wasted energy. Be honest with yourself, create good habits and the reputation you want will be there. Worry about your character, who you actually are. Be someone you want to be and create the habits to be that person and a stellar reputation will follow. Habits are created in as easily as 21 days. So wake up early, hit the gym, be early to your events, dress to impress, always wear a smile, go to yoga, build a tree house, plant a tree once a year, feed the birds, help at the soup kitchen, lay in bed all day, go to the store in sweat pants, don’t wear make-up, go on a hike, watch a whole Netflix season in one day, love yourself and actually be that person you want to be. Try to not pretend to be the person that you think everyone wants you to be. Let your spirit live out loud!
Spend your time on being the person you wish to be. Don’t waste your time trying to make people believe your a person you’re not.
Be more concerned with your character, and be less concerned with your reputation.
As I was sitting there in my condo watching the rain fall on this january morning, I was searching for the perfect thing to write about. I took for the fourth sip of my coffee and it hit me. Perfection. We are always searching for the perfect moment, the person, the perfect day.
We waste so much time searching.
Time is precious. You never know how much time you actually have. So instead of wasting time searching, we have to make the moments perfect. You can’t let the past change you negatively. You have to learn and move forward, and spend your time creating amazing memories every chance you get. If you’re focusing so much on making something perfect, you’re just dooming yourself!
I’ll give you an example.
I am assisting in the planning of my sisters wedding. We all know the serious stress and frustration that entails, especially as the maid of honor. However, my sister and I have discovered a way of creating moments while we plan. We spend more time laughing and enjoying each other while choosing venues, flowers, dress designers, caterers, etc. Instead of just having only one extremely special day, we have one extremely special day and a year of memories, as well as an amazing unbreakable bond.
It’s something I have been working on. Creating special moments out of the most ordinary events. Telling people I care about them at every possible chance I have. Making sure no matter what I am doing, I am incredibly happy doing it.
I mean sure, sometimes you do have to search for the perfect something, just like my sisters dress, but make the searching something worth remembering. If you miserably search, the outcome will not nearly be as perfect if the search was advantageous.
But this is all beyond my eyes!